Jealousy – the insidious and destructive feelings, which can appear in the shower suddenly, seemingly for no particular reason. For once in my life felt jealous of everyone, even the most beautiful and the most self-assured woman.
One of the most common occurrences of jealousy – jealousy of the former lover of her husband. Here it is not even on his former pass that even long after separation can be periodically dopekat his annoying calls and require the resumption of relations. Everything is clear and needs no comment. We are talking about a situation where the man himself, on his own initiative, began to tell his current beloved of his former lover and a beautiful and bright feelings he once had for her. And it does so not in order to tease or get jealous of his woman, he just wants to show the way that he has no secrets and that the past for it is nothing. But, more often, even if that confession is accompanied me to prove that love and phrases like it for me to have nothing. My relationship with her was a mistake. Me now but you do not need anyone – listen to these stories, to put it mildly, not very pleasant.
Even if the mind and the woman realizes that her beloved is, most likely, and she herself, is the past, and that it is hardly dreaming about how to get it back, but still the soul begin to creep fears, doubts and concerns to develop that are quite difficult. Has absorbed the soul of jealousy can gradually begin to hit not only the soul but also the mind and provoke a woman on the actions that it, being in adequate condition, would never have made. Woman begins to gather information about a former lover of her husband through mutual friends, seek out her page on the Internet, etc. And here, not to get to the extremes and not to make irreversible actions, to stop, try to include the brain and deal with jealousy.
First we need to be honest to myself and objectively answer the question: As I am sure that my man really loves me, and if I have a serious and compelling reasons to doubt? If this question can be answered firmly: Absolutely love her! This is to all appearances! – Then everything is fine and nothing to worry about, and all the fears – only the fruit of the poisoned jealous imagination. In such a situation, if time does not stop and deal with jealousy swept, you can start to do such acts and deeds that can ruin even the most solid and stable relationship with the beloved man is much easier and faster than it would have made the appearance of the very real rival.
A few suggestions to help cope with jealousy, and never let her into his life:
1. In no case can not bring itself to your favorite talk of his former lover, eliciting small details of the relationship with her and ask no end to the different ways the same questions: who do you love more – her or me? Who’s prettier (sexier, better in pastels) – me or her? These and other questions are not only bring to the white heat of any man, but to wake up in his mind long dormant memories of a former favorite.
2. If silently cope with intrusive thoughts alone does not work, you can catch up with her best friend and had a good to talk over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. Besides girlfriend can help their sensible, logical reasoning to deal with unfounded fears and a little quiet.
3. No need to constantly compare themselves with the former, looking for flaws in it, or vice versa, dignity. Gradually, you can find an inferiority complex and undermine their self-esteem. Even if it turns out that the opponent has a spectacular appearance and the clear winner in the comparison – it does not mean anything. After all, everyone is different and profoundly beautiful appearance does not guarantee success with the opposite sex. There are still playing an important role in the relationship thing as a rich inner world, charisma, sexuality, personal charm.
4. If, however, with zeal to the end you can not cope, then let it serve as an incentive for self-improvement in all areas and work on them. Not for nothing have a saying: Stupid women watch their husbands, and smart – for you!
5. Do not try to imitate the former: paint it, do the same haircut, wearing similar clothing, etc. It is always worse than the original copy. Where better to emphasize their individuality, originality and distinctiveness. Besides, if a man notices that his present favorite mimics the former, it may push him away and disappoint. If you still think that you’re losing outwardly ex-girlfriend, so what’s the problem? Start going to the dance or fitness, it will help you lose weight (if you need this), increase muscle tone and definitely boost your self-esteem. Update your wardrobe or whole image, but do not try to copy someone, be unique.
6. If the thought of jealousy disappear no matter what, then the cause is likely, lies not in the past relationship beloved man, and in his present attitude to his current woman who can not admit to herself that she did not have enough warmth, love, affection, care and attention of his beloved. In this case, the woman should not be jealous of the past and try to make it for her man more attractive and interesting. In the relationship of a woman depends very much. And if the woman herself and do something to make the relationship between her and her man have become more romantic, passionate and interesting, positive results were soon to come, and jealousy always leave, taking with them all the anxiety and fear.by admin
Sometimes we just need sex. Without any obligation and memories in the future. Well, what to do, there are desires or needs of the body. And we go on about their desires, without thinking about what will happen next.
Casual sex with some it causes a feeling of disgust, someone has a sense of admiration. At one such meeting, remain long in the memory, while others see them as a normal sexual adventure, a pleasant but short. No matter how we perceive these meetings. Many try to justify themselves, believing that they had done anything wrong, a sense of shame. No need to do that. Everyone chooses for themselves ways and means of their free time. So why not spend it nicely and without any obligation?
Traditionally, men consider initiating these meetings. What man does not dream to satisfy their sexual needs and leave without saying goodbye? No complaints, no obligations. But of course, not all men are as follows. If a man has a woman who loves, caring affectionate, giving comfort and male sex, it is unlikely that it will take itself heads seeking casual relationships. But the subject of this article is on random links, and those who look for them.
Due to random men pushing it sexual needs. They see them as just sex without any relationship afterwards. A man does not need anything from these links that usually need from a long relationship, that is, caresses, kisses, waking up in the arms of the morning, falling in love. He wants what not to do with a woman in long-term relationships, perhaps, of some non-standard sex, dirty talks, but in the morning he just go away and never come back.
There are men who write here are my random win over women in a special notebook. So they amuse your self-esteem. Oh, well, no one can deny it to them.
But not only the men are looking for one-time sexual encounters. Among the women, too, there are those who need such meetings without charges, claims and explanation of the relationship. Just sex and nothing more. These meetings help women feel authoritative, sexy, irresistible, desirable. As well as men, they want only to meet their physical needs, without obligation. What is waiting for a woman of those meetings? Of course, she just wants to get physical pleasure, orgasm, and feel sexy. Much less than men, but nevertheless, for women it is at times more important than for men.
Cocktail – this is what the most reliable for casual dating. A little cocktail, pleasant conversation, a romantic setting, so the little that will push you into the arms of each other for one night. A small amount of alcohol excites, exciting, promising, and requires sex needs. Of course, every woman appreciates a partner rather by external features. She wants to sort of sexual beauty, but it is in the ideal. Now it is only the sexual satisfaction. Then alcohol comes to the rescue, the more consumed, the lower the standards of evaluating sexual partner. And at the bar with a cocktail looking crowd, looking for a partner for the night, you can easily see your eyes, you have responded in kind. It’s not important sense, there is important only passion. And when two such people find each other, passionate stormy night they provided.
Still, the use of alcohol should not exceed permissible limits, so as not to lose your head and do not make that clear in the evening. Alcohol should be little, just enough to become a romantic evening, look relaxed, slower thinking, and ignited the passion in his chest. Needless partner solder or you will not get from it what the expect.
Unfortunately, these meetings are not always successful and end breathtaking sex. But here in the cards, you never know, win or lose. And if the woman was waiting for a bewildering sex, but instead got a bad sex and sleeping beside the man, then you need to accept the fact that bad sex is better than none. You never know whether you are compatible with those who have chosen a partner for the night. It is possible that your temperament do not match.
It is possible that in a bar atmosphere contributed to the fact that between you came sex drive, and then to bed, it was extinguished. Just changed the situation. Fleeting flirtation is not that sex. Such meetings are nothing but frustration and dissatisfaction do not bring. Well, then, they are random encounters, you never know exactly who will be in bed.
But it also happens that a chance encounter, as if struck by lightning, shakes you to the core and gives unforgettable sex and unearthly pleasure. Two strangers, like a wave throws in each other’s arms, and they spend an unforgettable night that will leave their souls an indelible mark. Then the time flies by unnoticed and people parting gone forever. Exeunt, bearing in mind this amazing night. They never allow themselves to ruin her relationship. They want to remember each other as they were in that night. That there were no disappointments later in man. Well, then this is the right of everyone to choose what is best for him.
Why some men are completely unfit for living together? Most family psychologists argue that a model of behavior in marriage man takes over in the first place with his parents. Moreover, men are more often followed his father’s stereotypes of behavior than women – the mother. This is due, apparently the fact that for most women, marriage is in first place among the main priorities in life, and to make their marriage successful and not to repeat the mistakes of maternal, women are ready for many things: work hard, to adjust to a partner, to make concessions, etc . Whereas men, most of them do not have the flexibility nature as women, and not wanting to change their stereotypes, follow them, regardless of the consequences.
Even Freud said one important feature: men tend to look for in a woman unconscious traits of his mother. And then it does not matter what kind of features it – positive or negative. The main thing – the similarities. The more common in women with a mother of a man, the more likely that he will offer her hand in marriage. And then … almost one to one scenario will repeat their parents’ marriage.
Not the best personal life consists of men whose families do not have a father, and, consequently, the standard male behavior in marriage. Observed that these men are often inferior to the reins of power in the family life of a woman waiting for her typical “mother” behavior. And since women tend to see themselves next to a confident and independent man, a strong shoulder which to rely, not a helpless child, the divorce rate among men who were brought up by single mothers, more than 50%.
Pretty big problems seen in family life of men, which are later children from their parents and have a gap between the older brother or sister more than 5-6 years. Such men are a child you used to be the center of attention of the family and receive a lot of care and custody. And they are growing up and even create their own family, continue to wait on the surrounding high care, indulgence, continuous increased attention to his own person, and the fulfillment of all his habits. It is natural that such an egotist as husband suffers not every woman, so the divorce rate among the “younger brothers” rather great.
According to observations of family psychology, good husbands are very often men who have little sister, age difference which is at least 5-6 years. These men, from childhood accustomed to take care of the younger sister, a very good feel in the role of protector and patron. And exactly this man is known to the vast majority of women’s dreams. According to statistics, the number of divorces among “big brothers” relatively small – less than 20%. This case is important, whether the adult male is a good relationship with her younger sister. If so, his chances to become a good husband is tripled.
Of course, every rule has exceptions. You can not judge about the prospect of marriage to a man solely on the basis of what family he grew up there and had brothers and sisters. The older a person gets, the more individual character traits it is manifested, and the greater are its opportunities for self-improvement and change yourself for the better. All the same, the biggest argument in favor of a family with a particular man – a mutual feeling of love!
Most people do not want to be alone. Availability of a reliable partner in life – one of the prerequisites of happiness for everyone. So why is the world so many lonely people? Loneliness can be temporary, and may be permanent. If a person living alone in a long time, can not find a mate, then he probably is not doing everything possible to correct the situation.
Often, serious about finding a partner for life prevents people elementary lack of free time. If a man from morning to night are at work, free time, he said, most often in a hurry to devote domestic affairs. But still, if it is good to try, time to carve out a personal life can be in any case, so this problem can be overcome.
The saddest thing is that many people are painfully aware of his loneliness, it is not surprising, do not do anything to change things. They firmly believe that the “fate and find the stove,” and when alone fly the years, these people just resign themselves to the situation, explaining it by the fact that this is so, their share.
Many lonely, quite decent men and women who might have the happiness of each other, live in different parts of the same city, not having a chance to meet and be together. So why is this happening?
Some try to justify their passivity that the age when young people are easy to start dating in theaters and discos, long passed. Not every grown man would dare to stop on the street pretty woman – and suddenly it had long been married and indignantly reject the offer to meet. And the women are afraid of being rejected even more men! Many of them would rather die than become flirt and ogle liking stranger.
There are many single people who somehow believe that all the “worthy” candidates for marriage have long had a family. So it turns out, they recorded themselves in the category of “unworthy”? Why do some people get divorced, then again quickly find a suitable pair, to the envy of the previous partner, and then acquire the status of family people, and others as they lived alone, and continue to live?
So what is the main cause of loneliness? Solely in the person elected a passive wait-active instead, which gets rid of loneliness much faster.
To incorrect behavior of the person in the main lead the wrong mental attitude. So let’s see what kind of setup and how you can get out of their influence.
Not the right choice.
Even if a person is under the influence of their minds, seek wealth, comes first career love is tied for second place. Even in this case, there comes a time when the surrounding things lose their value, he begins to realize that there is nothing more important than love.
No worthy candidates.
There are two options: either the range of human communication is so narrow that it really is not a suitable option for life, or a person has high self-esteem, and dignity of other people in the notice does not want to stop. If you reduce the claim to a potential candidate for the satellites to the level of real life – look, he appears.
We must wait, and the other half will be found by itself.
But what if you do not will be found and will be waiting for all of life? Is happiness is not worth it for the sake of his achievements show at least a little bit of initiative?
What if I (s) he does not like me.
Psychologists do not knowingly believe that low self-esteem – one of the main reasons for the lack of human life of outstanding achievements. Such a person needs to look around: are all happily married people have a perfect appearance, or any outstanding qualities of mind and character? “In every commodity has its own customer” – the ancient wise saying. In the end, result in their appearance in order with a healthy lifestyle, proper diet and regular exercise under the effect almost everyone, and people are common only in pictures magazines made with photoshop.
And if a person does not have the internal psychological problems, but just do not know where you can get acquainted with the appropriate representative of the opposite sex, already, well, not quite a young age? The main thing – do not be locked from the world in his own apartment, a place to discover, there are a considerable number.
You can become a member of the public organization.
Many people gather in groups of interests and needs, visiting with various organizations: sports, political, religious, etc. As a member of such an organization, you can easily come across a single person with similar interests, views on life, predilections.
Do not be ashamed to meet in public places.
Have sufficient communication skills, meet their fate can be in the bus, and in line for bread and vygulivaya beloved dog in the yard. Can strike up a conversation on a different basis, and an invitation to the end date, but after some time – the wedding.
Often attend various social events.
Exhibitions, presentations and other public events, usually collect a considerable number of people who communicate with each other, share experiences, and express their own opinions about what they saw. Informal talk about art can develop into acquainted with a future spouse.
Join a sports club or section.
Sports clubs and groups visited by many people of both sexes. Why not combine business with pleasure? After all, even if you can not find such a pair, exercise will have on the appearance and health of the most positive impact.
Getting on holiday.
Sunbathing on the beach, walking in the park, sitting in a cafe for a cup of coffee, you can easily make any noncommittal conversation with the pleasant man. The main thing – not from complexes and do not hesitate!
Getting on the internet.
Dating sites – great way to meet for a man who did not like to come often in public, and walk in public places. This method of dating is becoming more and more popular because of its simplicity and wide selection.
Look to your friends.
Sometimes, talking for years begin to take each other only as friends, not thinking about what could well be a good couple.
And it happens that the word “friendship” we hide something more important. Under the guise of general interest show their warm feelings for the man. If we get to the truth, for the man we are drawn not just friendship, desire, and love can be, but for unknown reasons, for us we want to hide it. Maybe because there is the fear of rejection, and the ruin friendships and completely lose the ability to communicate with that person.
All of the above methods are equally good, so which one to choose, to decide the man himself. For their happiness necessary to struggle – because it’s worth it!
This article is recommended for women who have trouble getting an orgasm, and for their men.
Most women first sex not only fun, but also delivers a rather painful. It is only in the favorite female protagonist novels, the first time to have sex with her lover can experience heavenly pleasure. In real life is much more prosaic, and the first sex rarely leaves a very pleasant experience. This is quite normal, as is under a purely physiological basis – a painful rupture of the hymen. But when a woman does not feel or the second, or the tenth time, it usually begins to worry that it is something wrong, and to suspect yourself of frigidity and the inability to get an orgasm during sex. Although statistics indicate that only 20 – 25% of women experience orgasm during each sexual intercourse, and 10 – 15% do not feel it at all ever, join the ranks of the frigid and unfeeling woman does not want anyone. But do not be discouraged. Lack of orgasm in women in early sexual activity – is not all that rare.
Here, of course, very much depends on the woman’s sexual partner. Many men do their best to bring their partner to orgasm, using all his experience and knowledge. But even if a woman achieves orgasm during oral or manual caresses, in most cases it does not feel completely satisfied (in psychological terms), as dreams to achieve orgasm during intercourse, which will allow her to feel the true physical and spiritual union with the beloved male.
How to learn to reach orgasm during sex, written many books and articles in which the authors recommend the use of a variety of new positions and methods of stimulation, as well as special auditory training, enabling women to overcome personal psychological problems that interfere with the pleasure of intimacy with a man. So why is it that women have problems with orgasm and can I fix this situation?
Sexologists unanimous that in order to enjoy sex, a woman must first love and accept myself for who she is. After all, if a woman feels unattractive partner, during sex, it will only feel stiffness and tension, and instead of relax and enjoyment, can only think about his not quite firm breasts or folds on the abdomen. Self-esteem and love your body can help a small but effective training. Need to undress, stand in front of a mirror figure at full length, and try to see in their appearance as much as possible the advantages (and dignity every woman), for example, long legs, beautiful shoulders, feminine roundness of the hips, the soft skin, and others considering yourself, you need to truly admire him, while repeating, “I’m beautiful, sexy, attractive woman. My man is tempted, looking at me.” And do not bring too much importance own shortcomings, as they are at all. Better to try to learn to think of them as an extension of their own merits.
Can bring substantial benefit to the special exercises that strengthen the muscles of the vagina. The woman, who can arbitrarily cut her vagina during intercourse, tightly clasping their man’s penis, not just give him great pleasure, but also much faster to reach orgasm itself. These exercises are performed as follows:
1.Nuzhno 20 – 25 times alternately short stretch, and then relax the muscles of the vagina.
2.Derzhat vaginal muscles tight for 10 seconds, then relax for 10 seconds, and so 10 times.
3.Using breath as much as possible to try to stretch the muscles of the vagina (as if trying to hold her urine), and when you exhale slowly relax. This exercise can be repeated 10 – 15 times.
In order to achieve quick results, it is advisable to perform these exercises every day, and sometimes several times a day. Especially because they do not take much time, and can be run not only lying, but also sitting. In order to perform the exercises, not necessarily to be alone, because no one from no one can understand or see what busy woman. Therefore, the practice can be like sitting in an office behind a desk, and while riding public transportation.
Better explore your own body and find the most sensitive point, will help many known since childhood masturbation. A woman can caress my body and genitals, while noting what touch gave her pleasure, and which, on the contrary, are indifferent or even unpleasant. Sexologists claim that the erogenous zones of all women are different. Therefore, a man may simply not know what kindness is most like his partner. For example, although the majority of women is nice when a man caresses the chest and pulls the nipple, some women have such affection can cause extremely unpleasant sensation that can permanently eliminate the sexual desire arose. To avoid such situations, women should not hesitate to detail your partner about your feelings. For it is clear that the more a man knows about the sexual preferences of its women, the easier it will be to bring her to orgasm.
Once the woman has met all the above recommendations, it may seek to begin to get an orgasm during sexual intercourse with their partner. Only need to pre-talk with the man, telling him of her erogenous zones and asked to give them during sex as much attention. In 80 – 90% of women the most sensitive erogenous zone is the clitoris, without any stimulation to reach orgasm is very problematic. But for men it can be difficult to have intercourse while caressing a woman’s clitoris, so the woman could very well do it myself. The main thing – do not be shy! Emancipation and following of their desires – a guarantee of pleasure for both partners. But in any case do not during sex intently waiting orgasm, thinking thus to despair: “But when he finally arrives, this orgasm?!” So, it just never comes. Much faster than you can reach orgasm, relax and just enjoy the process, nothing thinking or fantasizing about sex.
Certainly not easy to achieve harmony in the sexual sphere in the short term. Much depends on the ratio of women to their partner, and from her temperament, and the sensitivity and care partner. So do not despair if you have an orgasm again failed. In this issue you have to be patient and do not give up, continuing to work on a regularly follow the above recommendations. In this case, you can never tell exactly when to expect results. Some people need more time, and someone – less. We must strive to get an orgasm, but at the same time, do not do it to achieve the idea fixe. That is, after all, intimacy with a loved one in itself – a great joy and indescribable happiness. As they say, would be love and understanding, and everything else necessary follow!
It would be wrong to think that in the construction of relations between the sexes, men are always very active side, and women, on the contrary, extremely passive. In fact, to take the initiative, seeking to build relationships with the liked the opposite sex, it is peculiar to both men and women. But if men are usually just declare their feelings and intentions towards women, women wishing to show their sympathy for the man, rarely do it in plain text, and use to subdue the coveted men old woman tested weapon – flirting.
Ability to flirt is rooted deep gray centuries. Since ancient times, the language of flirting perfectly mastered all the fairer sex, as noble ladies, and a peasant girl. Marriage made it possible, without going beyond the bounds of public decency, which did not allow women to take the initiative in relationships with men, with looks, gestures, smiles, touches, easily attract liked men.
Nowadays, thanks to Emancipation, in relationships between men and women, much has changed. More and more women are considering flirting thing of the past, learn from men their style of behavior, do not hesitate to invite the first to please a man on a date, he recognized his feelings and even do a marriage proposal. That’s just statistics stubbornly suggests that these are the super emancipated women, often remain single, even with good looks and a lot of other incontestable advantages. This is not surprising, because man by nature – a conqueror. Therefore, a woman that does not need to win and conquer, and which behaves in the manner of men, loses in his eyes their feminine charm and no longer perceived as a woman, but as a friend, partner, work or even as a dangerous rival and enemy. So the ability to flirt is useful to any woman who wants to be a success in men, even the most self-sufficient and emancipated. Moreover, that flirting – not difficult art. Enough to learn a few basic rules listed below.
The places where it is appropriate to flirt. Flirting is not always appropriate, and not everywhere. For example, do not want to flirt at work, as this may not be the best way affect the reputation of women. Sometimes, of course, that breaks out between employees mutual passion, but still need to try to get a personal relationship is not made public and did not give a reason for unnecessary conversations.
The restaurant or cafe flirting is more appropriate, but we must not forget that most of the men go to these places are not for dating with women, and to eat and have a square meal during work break.
The most suitable places for flirting – bars and clubs, where people gather in order to have fun and socialize with each other. Moreover, that the atmosphere of these institutions – music, dance, lighting – has to flirt.
Sports clubs, beaches, parks, exhibition halls, theaters – all of these places of public entertainment suitable for flirting. Only need to know when to stop and be able to correctly assess the situation, to avoid being stupid or embarrassing.
Language flirting. He has not changed since ancient times. To make a compelling impression on the man’s daughter Eve used its entire arsenal: a promising smile, languid eyes, graceful gait, his voice gentle waves, etc.
Walk from the hip, should be your walk, every day. Movements should be smooth and hip wiggle. No need to rush to such a special hard face, hardly a man dares to approach. On the contrary, he walked down the street, imagine that you are a young man who is watching is trying to decide to come to you or not. Make it so that he wanted to come to you and talk.
The following method is quite simple, but no less effective. Talking with a man, look him in the eyes, hold eyes, then slowly translate eyes on the lips and neck. In this little smile, but frankly, for this example to think about what you do with them kissing.
Many modern women sad to notice that their attempts to flirt with men, for some reason, do not give the expected result. Psychologists believe that in order to flirt produced the desired effect on a man, a woman’s behavior should match her feelings and emotions. The implication is that if a woman is really notorious, not confident and do not feel attractive, its internal state necessarily reflected in its behavior, gestures, facial expressions, and therefore confidence in their own attractiveness – a prerequisite for success in men. French – are great connoisseurs in matters of love – are convinced that this woman is feminine in every situation, and even with myself behaving as if it is located next to the man she wants to please. Then feminine behavior gradually becomes a habit and it becomes natural for a woman.
Ability to carry on a conversation. To the end she was able to win the heart of a man, he should be nice and interesting to communicate with her. Some women are very complex during the conversation with the men, because they consider their horizons broad enough to maintain an interesting conversation with an intelligent and erudite man. These concerns are in fact completely unfounded! Men and do not expect a pretty woman that she can compete with them in terms of intelligence. Them enough that a woman will be interested to hear from them, sharing what he heard, and trying to understand their position, attitudes and beliefs. Also, a conversation with a man – a very good time to flirt with him. To do this, you can use gestures, touch, facial expressions, etc. For example, during the conversation, the woman can casually touch the man’s hands, and stared pointedly look him in the eyes, her hair, paint the lips, languid sigh, gently smiling, etc. All of this will affect the man much more than if the woman will show him the knowledge of ten languages and tells in detail about the structure of the engine ballistic missile.
The ability to adapt to man. Adjust to a man – not to lose their identity completely dissolved in it. Rather, it means – to tune in to a wave to be able to pick up the key to his heart through his feelings and emotions. This is not difficult, just in the emotional world vchuvstvovatsya men, showing sincere interest in everything which he lives and what interests him. After all, almost every man wants in a woman not only beloved, but also a devoted friend, able to support in difficult times at least a kind word and sympathy. The man saw the woman empathizes its problems, it must respond to what he tells her, and verbally and emotionally, to give advice, to express sympathy or admiration, breathe, nod, etc. Only compassion and empathy should be sincere. If a man feels false, he may decide that she’s just playing with it and quickly lose interest in it.
As we see in the art of flirting is no big deal, and master it by virtue of any woman. So it’s worth a try, and the positive results were not long in coming!
People behave during sex in different ways, depending on their temperament, upbringing and individual psychological characteristics. The same applies to this moment as a verbal expression of feelings, emotions, desires and experiences. Some people are having sex, love out loud comment in detail what is going to further inflame themselves, others only occasionally uttered brief remarks like: “Oh, how beautiful!” or “What is your favorite, you’re sweet!”
The longer the relationship of a man and a woman, the more specific features shown in their behavior during sex. Some couples, after many years of marriage are accustomed to each other, can combine sex with watching interesting TV programs, while others prefer a quickie in between household chores, and others who are betraying the importance of the romantic relationship, like having sex with candles and soft music.
Although the sexual preferences of people can be very different, in most cases they are during sex, limited tender words or phrases needed to help manage the process, like: “Now, let’s try this pose,” or “Kiss me here.”
And it’s not because of zakompleksovannosti or excessive shyness. Just most people think of verbiage there is hardly appropriate, and that the gentle caresses and kisses are in this situation, “say” much more than simple words. Besides, not everyone would welcome the desire of his partner to talk during sex.
But it often happens that a man and a woman, after many years of marriage, cease to feel for each other is a strong sexual attraction and physical intimacy is something for them everyday and does not bring the former thrills. Rectify the situation and return the former heat of emotion such a pair can help not only different things purchased in a sex shop, but also special talk during sex, aimed at strengthening the sexual excitement of both partners.
But before you decide to diversify sex with verbal communication, be sure to discuss this with your partner. Sexual preferences of people are very different. So, what can one person to love, the other completely discourage all desire to have sex.
Moreover, it is necessary to discuss not only the possibility of talking during sex, but that it wants to talk or hear each of the partners. After all, if one partner to warm themselves during the next wants to use foul language, and the other at this point will be waiting to hear touching declaration of love – such misunderstanding can lead to quite serious problems.
Sexologists observed that sexual preferences are a lot of people are difficult to predict because they can not depend either on the floor or on the level of culture, nor of any other settings. There are many delicate and feminine ladies who prefer to man during the next few behaved rudely and imperiously, and some rough-looking men like it when a woman whispering in your ear to them all sorts of affectionate nicknames like “my fish” or “my little cat” .
Many people are shy and afraid to talk about their own sexual preferences to their partners, not to push them away. And a very good reason! Loving people always react with understanding to such desires, and even try to go as far as possible to meet them. The more natural person behaves during sex and more liberating, the more fun it can be to get as himself, and deliver to your partner.
Other extreme, when people are not very interested in partners’ preferences and having sex, does or says what he finds it necessary. This selfish behavior is unlikely to contribute to sexual harmony, therefore, calls into question the very possibility of a long and stable relationship between a man and a woman.
It often happens that a man, because of the false shyness is not solved to realize their sexual fantasies with the woman, buying sex for money, turning to prostitutes. This is explained by the fact that paying prostitutes for sexual services, the man can not be afraid of being ridiculed or condemned for their fantasies, so relax and do with a woman who bought that dream, but does not dare to do with his wife or lover.
Talk to the orchestra and to find out if he had any fantasies about sex, you can offer him to play sex games at his choice. If this person is foreign, it is most likely, and will say. But often men and women gladly agree to these games in the “governess”, “schoolgirl”, “strict educator” or “doctors.” By agreeing to these games, the person should not only try to please your partner, but also must take into account their own desires. There is an axiom that helps achieve sexual harmony: everything that happens during sex, should be fun for both partners.
Some people like to joke in bed or sneer at them and their partner. They think that such behavior adds spice to the relationship and helps liberated. It is desirable to be very very careful! Sexual harmony in the relationship is difficult to establish, but it is very easy to destroy. Sometimes a rude word or a mockery of partner behavior during sex can lead to deep resentment on his part and a complete loss of his sexual attraction to his wronged man.
Talk about sex and talking during sex – is not quite the same. All the problems that occur in men and women in the field of dating, they should discuss outside the bedroom. And, when you’re talking on such subjects to behave extremely politely and tactfully, without expressing displeasure direct partner and not making fun of him. It is desirable, on the contrary, emphasize the dignity of a partner, tell him of her love, and then start talking about the issues.
And certainly not to criticize the behavior of a partner and talk about his mistakes and shortcomings during intimacy. Having sex, one should relax as much as possible to disconnect from all the problems and enjoy the process, otherwise the sex will not be perceived as fun and enjoyment, as well as serious and responsible work.
Both women and men, even the most taciturn and reserved, love to hear from their loved one’s sweet words and compliments. So do not skimp on them! A woman should be commended beauty, sex appeal, and in the man power, endurance and ability to deliver pleasure partner. Just hearing those words from your partner, a person can feel really loved and wanted.
We should never forget that the sex – though not the only, but, nevertheless, very important and very subtle aspects of human life. Fortress relations between men and women is largely dependent on the presence of harmony in their sex life. Therefore, any efforts made to achieve this harmony, always pay off handsomely!
Problems in sex occur in both men and women. Unfortunately, we have not yet become fashionable good tradition with the appearance of sexual problems immediately apply to personal therapist or sexologist. Our women therapist usually replace a girlfriend, you can complain to the vest and complain about your troubles. But there are some things which are hard to tell even the best friend, and so the only thing left – to wear unspoken and unresolved issue in itself. Left alone with their sexual problems, she is starting to get hung up on them, bring them excessive value and grow into all kinds of complexes. According to the observations of psychologists, sexual problems are most women, even the most beautiful and successful. So what are the problems associated with sex in women most often, and how to deal with these problems?
1. My body is unattractive.
In most cases, a woman’s desire to have sex in total darkness is not due to excessive shyness and reluctance to show a man real or perceived shortcomings of his body. In fact, the lucky women are fully satisfied with the figure, much less than you imagine. Women carefully and seek out admirable tenacity in their shortcomings and, of course, they find it. One seems to have too wide hips, others are going through because of a lack of large breasts, others do not like their supposedly not quite long legs, and a fourth suffering because of wrinkles on his stomach, and so on. In the end, thanks to the increased attention to their own shortcomings, it is a beautiful and attractive woman is almost out of the blue begins to consider himself a terrible ugly.
Most men, and would never have sex with a woman you like, meticulously seek out minor flaws in her figure. After all, once the man was in bed with a woman, so she seemed quite nice. So what do you need a woman?
Yes, men like to be considered a woman’s body in all the intimate details, but not in order to detect any deficiencies. Simply, it is very exciting and their tune. Excited man would be happy to look at naked breasts and other parts of a woman’s body, but if he was all right with the psyche, he did not even notice the wrinkles on her stomach or wrinkles on the neck.
2. Or maybe I’m frigid?
It’s no secret that women in the West are to have sex, so to say, is much easier than our compatriots. For example, an American or French will never hesitate to buy a vibrator for temporary isolation, and many of our women will die of shame than offered her man to visit a sex shop or play any sexual role playing.
That excessive shyness and attitudes to sex as something dirty and shameful thing, a woman can do is to firm and prevent her from enjoying physical intimacy with a beloved man.
Suspect himself may frigidity and quite sensual and passionate woman, if she hears from her sexual partner accused of insensitivity and inability to experience orgasm. The fact that so many men who can not meet the partner, so as not to be suspected of sexual failure, hurry to impress a woman that she does not get an orgasm during sex with them just because frigid.
In fact, this frigid – very rare. Frigid women do not feel attracted to men in general, and never under any circumstances be able to have an orgasm, even during masturbation. However, the desire to masturbate they arise. If a woman an orgasm at least once in life, then of frigidity can not speak, and the whole thing in a poor and low-quality sex.
But even the most passionate and temperamental women can not have an orgasm every time you have sex, and this is quite normal. Female physiology thinner and harder than men, and for the female orgasm requires a certain emotional state. But if a woman almost never has an orgasm during sex, but she loves her partner and frigid in the full sense of the word, is not, therefore, the reason – lack of sexual expertise of both partners. Each woman has their own individual erogenous zones, the existence of which has to know her partner, as well as positions that allow her to get the most pleasure from sex. So, the only openly telling the beloved man of his sexual desires and preferences, a woman can have the full harmony in the sexual sphere.
Grease can appear in women only during sexual excitement. But the process of arousal in women is not only physiological, but also deeply psychological. The slightest failure in women psychoemotional state could nullify her desire to have sex, even if the partner she loves. Women, unlike men, a very important element of romance in a relationship. Therefore, lack of lubrication during sex – a sure sign that a man is not enough time devoted sexual foreplay, that is, caresses, kisses, compliments. In addition, to increase the allocation of grease helps oral sex.
4.Seks with caution.
Some women get pleasure from sex prevents neither more nor less than an elementary inability to live in the present, not thinking about the past or the future. Women are complex creatures indeed. If a man during sex usually fully absorbed by the process, the woman may think at this point about anything, such as the relationship with a former lover. Of course, nostalgia for the past will not help turn back the clock, but it can easily destroy the good that has to date. Learning to live in the moment and appreciate your partner – an important condition of happy and lasting relationship.
Many women are so sucked into their daily routine – problems at work, cooking meals, cleaning the apartment, raising children – that of sex, there can be neither the strength nor the time nor the inclination. Why then can then wonder woman, always and under various pretexts denies man in sex when he finally gets his mistress, who is always ready to intimacy with him?
That life does not kill love, sexual side of the relationship in any way be push to the last place. Especially as the quality and regular sex not only strengthens the relationship, but also affects the health and well-being, both men and women, in the best possible way.
So women who want as much as possible to keep a strong relationship with the beloved man should not forget that almost everyone of boys rather give up delicious delicacies for lunch than the joys of sex with the woman. Sex – a very important area of men and women, so often, if it comes to naught, then comes down and there is no love.
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Can I confess to the guy in love first, not dropping with himself in his eyes? Many girls are afraid to admit their feelings, because in our society for centuries it was assumed that the first love of a man should be recognized. The woman, according to many, should be silent about their feelings and to take advantage of the signs of love and attention from the men, as a tribute.
But in recent years the situation has changed. Now many young women do not want to be led by outdated prejudices and do not hesitate to talk openly about their feelings with loved men. And the majority of modern men are not opposed to a woman, in a reasonable, of course, limits, take the initiative in the relationship. Such a change in the manners of our society due, apparently, is gaining momentum emancipation. If women, like men, running the business, make money, make a career and even go into politics, then why should not they stick to equality in relationships?
Of course, a love must be appropriate and relevant situations. On it can be discussed only if the woman and the man is not the first day there, and their relationships are stable and serious. Otherwise, if the relationship is more like a light affair, this recognition may not only fail to please a man, but also cause them confusion and irritation. If, however, and without a word clear that partners have for each other serious feelings, there is no much difference who takes the first step towards a man or a woman.
If you have just decided to confess his feelings to the beloved, choose the right time for this, and even themselves, create a situation in which your recognition will make the strongest impression and seems appropriate. You understand that if you are a declaration of love in a totally unsuitable for this situation, for example, during a joint shopping trip, your recognition will likely not cause of the response of the men that you would like to see.
If you and your man to love and appreciate the beauty and romance in a relationship, confess her love for him at a joint dinner by candlelight, do not forget to include the beautiful music and wine glasses filled with red wine. Of great importance is how you speak your voice recognition. Calm, everyday and formal tone, of course, does not fit. Best of all, if it is an intimate whisper in your ear. In this hug and kiss your man gently on the lips, look him in the eye, hug her cheek against his.
It is important to recognize when your not there nobody else – just you and him. Therefore, if you can arrange a candlelit dinner alone with a loved one can be selected for this, and other, no less romantic moment. For example, invite him to take a walk in the park in the evening under the stars, or a boat ride on the lake. Joint admiration eternal beauty of nature – a perfect moment for a declaration of love. Just do not turn the recognition impassioned monologue about your feelings. No need to scorn! By saying the three eternal words: “I love you” – and the rest of you say your eyes and night starry sky.
If your man is a great lover of poetry, he will appreciate if you confess his love poems, which themselves have composed for the occasion. If you do not have the poetic gift, you can borrow a verse from the classics. The main thing – to put into them overwhelm you feel.
If you and your lover – lovers of extreme lightweight, you can confess her love for him in a joint parachute jump or during the conquest of the mountain tops. Do not be afraid to dream! Make your confession original and memorable. Thrills and positive emotions contribute to the development in human blood endrofinov – happiness hormones. Then do the same for your favorite really happy!
But if you can not stand extreme and do not want to hold joint night walks and candlelit dinners – do not worry! In that case, just wait for some holiday or just a happy and enjoyable events in the life of your man, for example, his birthday, or the moment when they finally win his favorite hockey team, and said with feeling: “Darling, I love you ! ”
You are very shy and afraid of not cope with his embarrassment by saying the three magic word? No problem! Write him a love confession on a piece of paper, put it in an envelope and ask them to read when no one next to it will not be. Or send by mail.
Consider writing letters by hand inconvenient and outdated view of your own? Then send an SMS to a mobile or send an email to the email. I only wish that you will not see his reaction to your message.
Declaration of love is only useful if your feelings for men are sincere and profound. Should not do this for fun or for the sake of the experiment. Do not be afraid or ashamed of their love! If your man loves you too, he will appreciate your sincerity and will bind to you even more.by admin
If you want to win and keep the man of your dreams let him feel that he is very special. This of course does not mean that it is necessary to fall into his lap at each meeting. Just to show a man how you appreciate and give him joy. Let him feel that he is the one and only, the best in the world.
Perhaps you’re thinking: I’m not his servant to run when the slightest desire to plate or jump into bed. Of course, your favorite to do something for you, so you can feel loved, but to conduct competitive game who is more and who is less than totally meaningless. So how do you show your elect him so special?
The longer you last relationship with a man, the more you will know what he likes. Manifested his care in the details. Trifles is a wonderful thing – a minimum of wasted power, and joy, from the resulting surprise get maximum. Find in-law recipe of his favorite dishes and make him happy, and prepare a delicious meal. Do you remember about him every minute. Here’s what you’re careful.
Be there when he is bad. Men tend to hide their emotions begin to devour him from the inside, they are not used to show weakness. In the end, your lover may turn into a wild bear who walks in the woods and give slaps less strong representatives of fauna. Noticing changes in mood from her husband, to show your interest, then he will be able to ask for advice, and if it is not in need of advice, in any case, he was pleased that you care.
Do not let the relationship take its course, but you have won it, conquered, and now he’s around, but it does not mean that you can relax. In order to keep a man, make sure that it was interesting to you. Make more variety in gray, mundane routine.
Be indispensable for their favorite. You and a passionate lover, and best friend, you embody all the qualities he was looking for in a woman. But the more you do for him, the more he will get used and will cease to notice your efforts. To prevent this, to show the trick, give a man to feel what his life if he had to lose you. You can go on holiday alone in the place where he does not particularly want to go, for example, to visit relatives in another city. But the delay is not worth your absence, a week is enough for a man to feel your importance.
Do not be too available to a loved one, or it will have to operate, be there, but do not forget about your interests, meet with friends, visit your favorite fitness activities. In his behavior Be spontaneous. Man will understand that you can have your interests, and you have to be away for a while, and your absence will perform the most of those cases, usually you take.
Do not run yourself, you always have to look good. Remember how long you spend any time in front of a mirror, going on a first date with her beloved. Here you have already started to live together and sexy silk robe was replaced by Terry, beautiful hair in curlers. Such a pattern has a tough men’s vanity, because he so eager to show off in front of friends his beautiful wife. He was so eager to hear from friends, “Gosh, how lucky you are, friend.” This does not mean that you have to run to the surgeon and sew yourself silicone boobs or pace yourself a steady diet. No, this is about respect and self-love.
Be careful in showing their concern, excessive protection in the form of endless advice makes a man feel like a real man does not, as a helpless child – fasten seat belt, guide the car accurately, put here this blue shirt, look not to soil, etc. This might sound strange, but a lot of things men can do without constant adjustments of the fair sex. If you think that it is too time to spend with your friends, in any case, Forbid him not to meet with them or it will be faced with the choice: either you or his friends. After all, the problem is really that you feel abandoned and useless, just tell him about it, but he himself will decide what to sacrifice him to spend more time with you.
Do not be jealous lover, catching his eye on a passing girl, men will always stare at foreign women. Women also take notice beautiful women, but it does not just show the kind of men just do not know how to hide his emotions on the subject, demonstrating a slack-jawed. It is better to use the situation to their advantage by asking what he thought it sexy.
Be honest, if you are worried, just tell him about it, not blaming and not releasing the snide remarks in his direction. Perhaps you harass months, winding himself, and he is not even aware that some of his actions bring you so much pain.
Men – simple creatures who want to care for them, thus to be independent. Yes, there is continuous conflict, but so they are our men.by admin